My Placenta vs. Jay-Z (TRIGGER WARNING: Violent Images)

Two big things happened recently.

First, Beyoncé Knowles and Jay-Z had their first child, renting out the entire fourth floor of NYC's Lennox Hill hospital so that B could have her natural birth in peace. Their child, a baby girl named Blue Ivy Carter (B.I.C.), has already released Glory, her first single.

I wish them all the best. But more about that later.

Second, facebook temporarily deactivated one of my favourite posters. January, who writes the mama-sharing blog Birth Without Fear, posted a picture. It offended someone. And although there was no nudity or violence in it, BWF was told this was her final warning – and they would shut down her facebook page (which has over 16,000 likes!) if she wasn't more careful. The offending pic?

From 'The Rad Placenta' on Birth Without Fear:

These are the facebook terms of 'safety' regarding offensive content:
  1. You will not bully, intimidate, or harass any user.
  2. You will not post content that: is hateful, threatening, or pornographic; incites violence; or contains nudity or graphic or gratuitous violence.
  3. You will not develop or operate a third-party application containing alcohol-related or other mature content (including advertisements) without appropriate age-based restrictions.

I don't see anything about life-giving organs in there. Do you? Perhaps this placenta is hateful; certainly, some find it threatening. More threatening than...


Or this.

Or this,  perhaps most disturbing for the non-fictitiousness of its imagery.

Those three images are just a sampling of the ugliness that gets published on facebook. Lots of women were upset about the BWF placenta censorship (placensorship?), since, "all kinds of gross pictures of naked women are allowed!" Indecent pictures of naked women don't bother me half as much as the dead hooker joke groups. Or the beating women is cool groups. Or the rape is funny groups, a petition against which garnered several thousand signatures last September, but made little traction since, as the fb moderators said, it's not hate speech, it's opinion.

Um, rape isn't exactly something you can have an opinion about. It's not like heavy metal, plastic bags or anchovies. It's not controversial. 

It's undeniable that facebook has its roots deeply planted in the misogyny of our culture. Let's not forget how it started: a site for guys to check out and comment on the 'hotness' of their female classmates, comparing their ID photos (illegally acquired by hacking into Harvard's student record system) with farm animals, and each other. It accepts ad revenue from some pretty sleazy companies, prompting one user, David Roberts, to create a group, 'Stop Offensive Ads on Facebook'. He says,

These ads are disgusting, promote casual and irresponsible sexual relations, and give a very wrong image about women.These ads appear frequently, and due to their sexual nature could cause possible sexual harassment issues to someone who accesses Facebook at work or in a public place. If you are female and haven't seen these ads, it's probably because they are exclusively targeted at male users. 

 And of course, ol' fb never wanted to allow pictures of breastfeeding – and still occasionally taking them down, as they did with this BC mother just last month.

But facebook is a private company and facebook can do whatever facebook feels like. The problem is that it has come to feel like public space, our version of the Greek agora. So what's a placenta-lovin' mama to do? Mrs. BWF has decided to move her entire community to a private forum attached to her blog. Understandably, she doesn't want to run the risk of having her account deleted for bad behaviour.

But what about the rest of us? I signed a petition to stop placensorship on facebook, but I doubt that'll do anything. I also made this censored picture of my placenta my profile pic:

Feel free to use it. I also made this:

Which was based on the following, in which I used stills from YouTube videos that were deemed 'age restricted based on community guidelines' (a nice way of saying: people under eighteen would surely be warped forever by seeing this). Turns out facebook doesn't have a monopoly on getting squeamish about birth but not about sexualized violence against women.

The pictures on top are from a beautiful video called ISEA, showing the birth of a healthy baby with very little medical intervention; the images on the bottom are from a truly disturbing music video, Monster, featuring Kanye West, Rick Ross, Nicki Minaj, and... new papa Jay-Z. The video caused a controversy when it came out. After some public pressure, MTV refused to play it. YouTube, however, has several copies available for viewing. To anyone. No age restrictions. No community guidelines.

A simpler image, since I'm pretty sure fb would censor
the explicit birth images in the previous one.

An unfortunate byproduct of this policy is that all of YouTube's birth videos have been lumped in with some truly offensive content. Age-restrictions are there for a reason (usually), so the 'suggested videos' on the sidebar – since you're the kind of person who, nudge nudge, wink wink, is looking for racy content! – are violent and pornographic.

This further stigmatizes birth videos, making it uncomfortable to watch them (and believe me: if you're pregnant, you need to!). The whole experience just feels seedy. Only five out of fifteen of these recommended videos (below, a screenshot of what you see after watching 'Bastian's Birth - Part 7') are actually of births. How are you even supposed to find the birth in all this mess?

The message is this: that birth and breastfeeding are icky; that women are ridiculous for wanting to talk and learn about these basic facts of life, which would be better left taboo since, as one commentator put it, "Last I heard, it was facebook, not breastbook." That violence against women is sexy, funny, or both. That women should be looked at, manipulated, threatened and attacked – but not active, live, loving, nurturing, fucking amazing powerful beings.

In a recent statement, Jay-Z and Beyoncé said that their daughter's birth was, "emotional and extremely peaceful... the best experience of both of our lives." Maybe this experience will give our dear Jay-Z some pause to think, and stop rapping beside women lying dead on the sofa.

Then again, maybe it won't.